Wedding Traditions are a personal opinion to each couple, some feel they are outdated, and others enjoy taking part in traditions. Here’s some of the more well known traditions and if we took part in them on our wedding day.
The White Dress This tradition began after Queen Victoria wore an ivory/white gown to her wedding with Prince Albert in 1840. Previously – women would just wear their best dress, whatever the colour!
My dress was technically ‘almond and ivory’ – but yes, I followed this tradition. Originally I was looking at blush dresses, but I just fell in love with this one and the sequin skirt.
Father giving the bride away This originated from the middle ages when fathers would consider their daughters their property, and sell them away.
Obviously I don’t believe I am property to be sold, but it was just a lovely moment in the ceremony, and a special moment for me and my dad after spending the morning getting ready with my mum.
Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and a sixpence for her shoe Something old was to ward off the Evil Eye and protect any future children, nowadays something old generally means continuity. Something new is optimism for the future. Something borrowed is meant to be from a happily married couple to bring the new couple good luck. Something blue is also meant to deflect the Evil Eye, and also to stand for love, purity, and fidelity. Finally – the sixpence in your shoe is meant to represent prosperity for the couple.
We did do this, something old; My dad has an old collectable coin that his grandad bought him, (he then bought me the same coin when it was re-released). Something New; my dress/wedding ring/earrings from my husband. Something borrowed; my mum’s clutch bag. Something blue; Etsy store Olly Co did charity blue hearts, I had mine sewed into my dress. Also I had Rainbow Club shoes and they include blue gems in their shoe sole. A sixpence for her shoe; traditionally the father of the bride gives this to the bride on her wedding day, my dad sent mine early – but he bought for me the royal mint sixpence for 2020 as a memento for our wedding day.
The wedding rings This originated in Ancient Egypt, where the circular shape symbolises eternity. Ancient Egyptians also started the tradition of wearing them on your left ring finger, due to believing this was connected to the vein of love – leading all the way to your heart.
We did have wedding rings, we both felt these were important to give to each other during the ceremony as a symbol of our vows. However they do not match – mine is white gold with diamonds to match my engagement ring, my husband’s is rose gold and palladium.
Throwing Confetti Originally throwing rice, this was thought to bring fertility and wealth to the newly married couple.
We did do this, I spent the year and a half before the wedding drying out any flowers I had; birthdays, flower picking, get well soon flowers when I had surgery, even the flowers from my grandparent’s funeral (I felt this was a nice subtle way to incorporate them into the day).
The Wedding Cake During medieval times, the groom had to try to kiss the bride over a pile of sweet bread rolls, by the 1800’s the tradition was for relatives to leave a pie underneath the bride’s pillow. Nowadays the custom is for the couple to cut a slice out of the wedding cake.
We did kind of do this, we did cut a ‘top tier’ of our wedding cake, however our cake wasn’t the traditional tiered cake, we had cupcakes for our guests with just the top tier for cutting (and also to enjoy on our minimoon!)
The Bouquet Toss This originated from the 15th century, at the end of the wedding guests would try to tear bits off from the bride’s dress, flowers or hair as they believed it would bring them good luck. As this became violent, it evolved to where the bride would toss her flowers at the guests and run.
We did not do this, flowers nowadays are very expensive and I didn’t want to ruin the bouquet as we had booked to preserve some of our flowers from the day. After the wedding, we took all of our flowers home, sorted out what we needed for preserving, and then I delivered leftovers in some of our jam jars used for wedding decorations to guests who lived nearby. All of our guests also all had their own corsages/buttonholes, so everyone had some flowers to take home on the day!
The honeymoon Newlywed Viking couples were sent to live in a cave for one month. Everyday for 30 moons, a family member would visit them and bring them honeyed wine, hence the name ‘honeymoon’.
Due to Covid, we were forced to postpone our planned honeymoon to Florence (we will visit there one day when it is safe to do so), however we were very lucky to be able to go to Center Parcs at Longleat, which was an absolutely amazing break away given everything that happened in 2020.
Carrying the bride over the threshold This wedding custom came to Britain from Germany. Previously, the groom had to carry the bride over his shoulder to his hut, as it made her look less enthusiastic about the wedding night and was therefore a guarantee of her chastity.
Uh no, we did not do this. I am so glad we didn’t now I know how it originated! Each couple to their own, however my husband and I lived together prior to marriage, this isn’t something that we even really considered doing.
What other traditions are you incorporating into your day? Are there any above you’re skipping or definitely doing? Let me know what your plans are and I hope you all enjoy whatever you decide to do.